Tag: growing up

Unexpected Learning (#158)

05.30.18

Today I’m Grateful For…

  1. My parents
  2. Talking things out
  3. Unquestioning support
  4. Being home
  5. My health and well-being
  6. A quiet night
  7. My brother and sister
  8. The feeling of being home
  9. Calming music
  10. Getting things off my chest
  11. A second chance
  12. A little understanding
  13. A good audio book
  14. A clean room
  15. An organized schedule
  16. Tattoo reminders
  17. A clear night sky
  18. A good pen to write with
  19. Friendly faces
  20. My mental health tools
  21. Free counseling at BSU
  22. Nights at the train station
  23. Falling asleep to thunder storms
  24. My friends who read the blog
  25. The present moment

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

Featured image of my family. Feeling especially grateful for their love and support today. Picture was from last summer.

Celebrating Others (#142)

05.14.18

Today I’m Grateful For…

  1. Celebrating my Brother’s birthday tomorrow!
  2. Being home with my family
  3. Finally being done with my semester
  4. Time to get organized for Iceland
  5. My mom watching my cat this summer
  6. Swimming when the weather gets warm
  7. Watching NBA basketball with my brother
  8. Laughing with my mom
  9. Help packing up
  10. Popcorn and movies
  11. Singing in the car
  12. Good supervisors
  13. Change of all kinds
  14. My mother’s cooking
  15. Safe travels
  16. Refereeing Saturday mornings
  17. Peanut butter
  18. Sunsets over the water
  19. Good communication and talking things out
  20. Writing it down
  21. Speaking into my existence
  22. Catching up
  23. Trust and reliability
  24. A good team and hard work
  25. The here and now

 

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

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Featured image of my best friend Melissa graduating! I wish I could be there but am forever grateful for my best friend. 

Let’s Keep It Going (#124)

List number 2 of the promised gratitude! This is kinda fun. Can you keep up?

04.26.18

Today I’m Grateful For…

  1. New pens
  2. Good group members
  3. Honesty
  4. Good teachers and bad teachers
  5. Learning moments
  6. Clean air and the outdoors
  7. Alpha Sigma Tau Sorority at BSU
  8. My peer Mentors
  9. Rainy days with my cat
  10. Songs you can shake your butt to
  11. People who inspire me
  12. Real Philly Cheesesteaks
  13. Coming home
  14. The sunshine
  15. Frank and Holly
  16. A handy box of tissues
  17. Popcorn, movies, and recliner seats
  18. Sharing gratitude
  19. Stepping outside my comfort zone
  20. My trust in the unknown
  21. Positivity! There isn’t enough of it in this world
  22. A few deep breaths
  23. Self-care
  24. Artistic expression
  25. This very moment


As always, check out my first blog, 
25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

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Featured image of the Universe all around us. Again, this picture is not my own but I can certainly appreciate the meaning behind it. 

A Couple Deep Breaths is a Good Place to Start (#67)

02.28.18

Today I’m grateful for…

  1. Gratitude
  2. That all bad days come to an end
  3. Perspective
  4. A couple deep breaths
  5. Jess and Carley
  6. Nights I remember my dreams
  7. Meeting new people
  8. A life full of learning
  9. When I feel it in my bones
  10. The Boyden Steps
  11. Helen’s Tree
  12. Walks to Scott Hall
  13. Dancing under the stars
  14. Flying J’s Pizza by the lake
  15. Crimson memories
  16. My family, especially my mom today
  17. Friends from Ashland
  18. Tattoo stories
  19. The comfort of my bed
  20. Taco Tuesdays
  21. Growing up playing basketball with my dad in the driveway
  22. Sweaters on Christmas from my grandma every year
  23. Change
  24. Patience
  25. The here and now

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

Featured image of the walk back from Tinsley. Missing the Bridgewater sky 🌌

Good Days and Great Days (#42)

For someone who struggles with mental health issues, I have heard I only have good days and great days. The good days are when things are going really well and life is easy. Great days are when you are dealing with hell and still manage to use your tools and find gratitude at the end of it.

Today was a great day.

02.03.18

Today I’m grateful for…

  1. A productive morning
  2. The new Ji Jutsu class I started going to
  3. UMass Dining, it’s so much better than BSU
  4. Pretty much everything else about BSU
  5. New friends and deep conversation
  6. Relaxing ambient music
  7. My grandma and grandpa
  8. Space and existing in this Universe
  9. My cat, Ned, who likes to use my laptop to rub his face
  10. Thick Milkshakes and Smoothies
  11. My dad bringing me to a cards tournament at Toys R Us when I was little
  12. My plants are growing!
  13. Weekend sales while shopping
  14. My parents taking my family to Patriots games
  15. My very warm and cozy covers
  16. Super Bowl Sunday
  17. Warmer weather
  18. Morning meditation and yoga
  19. Feeling sore after working hard
  20. Family roller coaster road trip
  21. Artistic people
  22. Lessons learned
  23. Harry Potter Weekend
  24. Vinyl Music
  25. Today

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

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Featured image of the tide revealing the Earth beneath. This is one of my mom’s favorite beaches on the Cape. Family pictures this year were coordinated. 

Signs From The Universe (#36)

Sometimes it is undeniable. Something so clear out of your control is telling you to notice the signs. I don’t think we always have the awareness to know what these signs mean but they are there.

01.28.18

Today I’m grateful for…

  1. Places I’ve been
  2. Healthy eating
  3. The weekend
  4. Clean water
  5. My family
  6. Coming home
  7. My peer mentors
  8. My cat, Ned
  9. Time for myself
  10. Finding new music
  11. Handwritten notes and letters
  12. When my mom would make my siblings and me pancakes
  13. Nights together
  14. Morning meditation
  15. Signs from the Universe
  16. Long runs
  17. Contagious smiles
  18. New opportunities
  19. People who inspire through hard work
  20. A summer doing Crossfit
  21. A good night’s rest
  22. Friends who got me here
  23. The tough days that make the good days better
  24. Peanut butter
  25. Today!

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

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Featured image from my hike to Judas Tree National Park. Missing the great outdoors and the sun as it continues to be cold and gray here in MA. 

Just Gotta Go (#30)

Don’t let anything hold you back from your grand adventure. It’s time and you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

01.22.18

Today I’m grateful for…

  1. Finished applications
  2. New blinds for my apartment
  3. Indian Food
  4. No social media
  5. Time in LA with my Uncle
  6. Water
  7. Nice weather
  8. A good stretch
  9. Another first day of classes
  10. Empty sink and a clean apartment
  11. Secret spoons for ice cream
  12. Theater class in Middle School
  13. My family
  14. Half days on Wednesdays
  15. Runs before school to the train station
  16. Love
  17. Soft cookies
  18. NFL Football
  19. Fan theories about my favorite TV shows
  20. Trips to Daybreak Burger
  21. Sleep
  22. My friends from BSU
  23. A couple deep breaths
  24. This blog
  25. Today and this moment

As always, check out my first blog, 25 Things I’m Grateful For (#1) to know why I’m writing this list and why I want you to start yours.

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Featured image of a woman warrior ready to take on the mountain. The blue sky and the deep emerald trees stand no match. All pictures are my own.

Take A Moment (#14)

Today, my plans changed. I was originally going to go to Catalina Island and was very excited about the hike I had planned. Instead, I spent the day getting a much needed massage and my first day at a spa. I did in fact spoil myself but I’d rather focus on why these plans changed.

For me, I found what I needed to on my first hike. I learned so much at Joshua Tree and didn’t want to spoil anything by going on another glorified day hike. I learned this wasn’t the experience I was looking for and felt like I was failing to meet my morals and standards by doing this hike at Catalina.

Today, I want to emphasis taking a moment. I personally went to the spa but you can take care of yourself in other ways. Self care is extremely important and should be a staple of your routine. Sometimes it’s nice to indulge and take an entire day at the spa but there are other ways to do this. Watching your favorite series on Netflix, cooking your favorite meal, sleeping in, are all ways you can take care of yourself to find easier ways to recognize gratitude. Ultimately, it’s up to you and that choice gives you power.

01.06.17

Today I’m grateful for….

  1. Late night pancakes
  2. A day at the spa
  3. Eggs of all shapes and sizes
  4. Seeing new places
  5. Self-care and self-love
  6. My family and my uncle
  7. Playing Soccer growing up
  8. Good music and Spotify
  9. The moon and the stars
  10. No traffic
  11. Staying in LA for free
  12. Peanut butter, always
  13. The geek trees and color in Southern California as Massachusetts continues to be hit by snow
  14. Dogs that let me pet them
  15. Cereal after school
  16. Trying new things
  17. Live music and artists that play with passion
  18. Meet some YouTube idols
  19. The existence of Chicken Parmesan
  20. For my bed after a long day outside
  21. My grandparents
  22. Be there for my family and my younger brother when things don’t go according to plan
  23. Popping your ears after a long day
  24. People who reach out when you need support
  25. Today and every day on vacation with my Uncle

Be Kind, You’re Learning (#13)

I haven’t been able to truly express just how different this trip to LA has been then I expected. I’ve written about living in the present and being adaptable but today was something else. I had a complete mental shift coming down from my hike today and it was more than I could have hoped for. Today was filled with learning and the time and grace to process all of it. I made a mistake in some ways and I need to own that. I have enjoyed every second so far of this trip but I was wrong for other reasons I’m still processing. I have a lot to learn and so much life to live. I’m still developing my personal identities and have a lot of maturing and growing to do as I enter the next phase of my life. I’m excited to share more with you all. Be kind to yourself and find gratitude in all of the little moments.

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01.05.18

Today I’m grateful for…

  1. My time at Joshua Tree National Park
  2. My family for letting me process with them
  3. Getting In-N-Out Burger twice today
  4. Killer Sunsets and long drives
  5. Learning from mistakes
  6. Water
  7. Time to journal
  8. Meeting new people and making new friends
  9. Wedding Invites
  10. Healing of all kinds
  11. A future with so many options
  12. Parks and Rec and how hard it makes me laugh
  13. A helpful map and kind Park Rangers
  14. My time in Washington hiking the side of Mt. Rainier
  15. How music can make you feel
  16. A day to relax and reset
  17. Ashland Pizza Palace Calzones
  18. Bike rides from my apartment to the gym
  19. NAPS
  20. The Earth we all share
  21. Technology and Green Energy
  22. The powers of the sun
  23. The slightest of tans I got from my hike today
  24. The inventor of the Drive Thru window
  25. New perspectives and each moment that brought me here

More pictures and stories to come

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The Truth About Growing Up (#3)

How could I have ever known the vegetables my parents and I fought over eating at the dinner table most nights, were good for me? I am grateful I get to think back fondly on family bike rides, road trips, and museum visits from my childhood. Tonight I sat down with my brother and my dad to play a game of Monopoly for the first time in a while. We’ve been playing Monopoly together for as long as I can remember but now I appreciate it for different reasons. I was going to write a metaphor about how Monopoly relates to life but that felt too expected. Instead, I wanted to share a story about growing up and why it’s important to be grateful.

The Good Old Days

Littered throughout my house are baby pictures of my twin sister and myself. I’ll admit, some of our earliest pictures it is difficult to tell us apart. Now, it is important to understand the two of us could not be more different. I may be a whole two minutes older, but she is far more mature. She works in accounting, I work in higher education. She lives in the city, I live on a college campus near farms and hippies. Hopefully you get my point.

Before I turned 10 years old, I got to be the ring bearer in my Uncle’s wedding. My sister, not surprisingly enough, the flower girl. I was pumped to have a role, I got to stand up front and ultimately get my moment of fame. As the Rabbi asked for the rings I moved to step forward when suddenly my dad grabbed my shoulder. What was he doing?!? This was my moment! I had mentally rehearsed this over and over only to be thwarted by my own father in front of friends and family. Unfortunately, no one told me I was not carrying or responsible for the real rings. This devastated pre-10 Jacob and I cried and I cried and I cried. Without saying a word, my sister walked up to me after I had calmed down a bit and gave me a hug. She whispered, “It’s okay Jacob, my flowers weren’t real either”.

My sister and I haven’t always been close but I know for reasons like this, she loves me. As much as people wish they could relive their childhood, go back to the past, the present moment is where we’re supposed to be. I never realized how hard my parents worked to take three kids to Disney, or the purpose of my sister telling me her flowers were fake. I’m grateful for those moments now, more so than I was then.

Yes, growing up is hard and life is short. Time seems to be flying by and life waits for no one. As we experience life, we may not be able to recognize or be thankful for our current surroundings. Living in the present moment helps but isn’t always something we’re able to do. It’s important to recognize our own growth and be grateful for our experiences. One of my favorite shows of all time says it best.

“I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you actually left them.”

I think we can, Andy Bernard. I think with gratitude, every day, every moment, can be something we appreciate and value if we do so intentionally. You’re allowed to have bad days but there’s still something to be learned. Try it for yourselves, treat every day like it is the best day of your life and finding 5 things to be grateful for at the end of it, won’t be a challenge. I’m only 23 and have my whole life to continue learning and growing. I know to be patient with my process and use gratitude to keep me grounded in the here and now. We just have to take it one day at a time.

12.26.17

I’m grateful for…

  1. Wedding Cake
  2. Space heaters in the winter
  3. Family game nights
  4. Liverpool being in the top 4 after Christmas
  5. Macaroni and Cheese
  6. The sound of playing cards when well shuffled
  7. Sleeping in
  8. My friend Bryan Gammon, (aka blindchild check him out on SoundCloud)
  9. Trick or treating around the neighborhood
  10. Slow dancing
  11. The summer sun
  12. Catching up with old friends
  13. My family and the places we’ve been
  14. My high school theater arts teacher, Mr. Harrington, for helping me step outside my comfort zone
  15. Football in the yard with my brother
  16. The Harry Potter series, both the books and the movies
  17. Anything by Frank Ocean
  18. Ice cream novelties
  19. Hand written notes and letters
  20. The feeling after 10 deep breaths
  21. This blog
  22. Modern day technology and medicine
  23. A full tank of gas in the car
  24. Cheesy nachos on game day
  25. Yesterday. Today. And Tomorrow.

I hope you live every day fearlessly with however much vigor and spirit you can muster. Do it with patience and gratitude.